The question itself is a lie. The words indicate that you truly care how the other person is. But we don’t. It’s just a social convention used as part of a greeting. I will at times not answer the question, instead just say hi. No one has ever stopped me to repeat it.
We can just as easily trap someone into having to lie. Women are good at this. “Honey, how do I look? Does this make me look fat? Do you like my outfit?” Why do we do this too ourselves and our husbands? We really know how we look. Is it fair to put our men in the position to answer a question like that? Not really. If they say that you look great, chances are you think they are lying. They may or may not be. It makes no difference. We assume they lie. If they say you look fat in that outfit… The doghouse. They can’t win for losing.
So let’s just admit it. We all tell small lies. Let’s also try to change our ways. Don’t ask how are you unless you care enough to hear. Don’t ask how you look unless you really want to know.
Right now I’m using apple slices to get the peanut butter pumpkin dip into my mouth.