I'm on vacation so this is a repost. I hope you enjoy it again.
I am sitting here eating an apple with pumpkin peanut butter dip and thinking about the lies we all tell or just believe. We all do whether we admit it or not. Don’t believe me? What do you say when someone says, “Hi, how are you?” Chances are you don’t say, “My back hurts, I have a cold and I just want to be home in bed.” No, you say, “Fine.” I do too.
The question itself is a lie. The words indicate that you truly care how the other person is. But we don’t. It’s just a social convention used as part of a greeting. I will at times not answer the question, instead just say hi. No one has ever stopped me to re-ask the question.
Another lie is that the dip is only to enhance the chip, fruit or veggie we are eating. We all know the dip is the main thing. The fruit or whatever is there only as a vehicle to get the dip into our mouths. How many times have you, after the veggie is gone stuck your finger into the dip left just to lick it off? Don’t lie to me. ;)
We can just as easily trap someone into having to lie. Women are good at this. “Honey, how do I look? Does this make me look fat? Do you like my outfit?” Why do we do this too ourselves and our husbands? We really know how we look. Is it fair to put our men in the position to answer a question like that? Not really. If they say that you look great, chances are you think they are lying. They may or may not be. It makes no difference. We assume they lie. If they say you look fat in that outfit… The doghouse. They can’t win for losing.
So let’s just admit it. We all tell small lies. Let’s also try to change our ways. Don’t ask how are you unless you care enough to hear. Don’t ask how you look unless you really want to know.
Right now I’m using apple slices to get the peanut butter pumpkin dip into my mouth.
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